Return to trauma after husband's death - page 3

by NURSESNUFFLES

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Hi. I am a nurse in the busiest er in my state, a level 2 trauma center. On New Year's day, I worked trauma all shift, then came home to find my husband dead. He had comitted suicide. I will save you all of the details. I love... Read More


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    The same thing happened to a co-worker/friend of mine. Her husband shot himself in the bathroom of their home. She returned very quickly because we were her support system and she didn't want to be in the house. It worked for her. The most amazing part of the whole thing is that because, as ER nurses, we work closely with the local fire departments and have a special relationship with them. One of the fire departments actually got together, on their own, and gutted her bathroom and bedroom, totally rearranged everything including the plumbing fixtures so it looked completely different and re-did it completely for free. The ER staff pooled their money and bought her an entire new bedroom suite. It was such a blessing to her.
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    NURSESNUFFLES, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss and that my thoughts are with you and your children. {{Hugs}}
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    Thank you. I have also been recommended to do EMDR. Happy to hear of someone who benefitted from it. I worked a half day Friday, and had a great day. I'm always a little overeager, so I decided to do a 12 hr shift Saturday. I broke down at lunch abd had some anxiety after that, but I have a great support system at work, and they helpedme through it. Sunday was another 12 hr shift, and it went very well. Thanks to all who responded!
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    Please keep us posted...yes, EDMR is a GREAT process...been in therapy for 2 years, and it is a positive experience. Much prayers and positive vibes to you and your family!!!
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    Quote from NURSESNUFFLES
    Thank you. I have also been recommended to do EMDR. Happy to hear of someone who benefitted from it. I worked a half day Friday, and had a great day. I'm always a little overeager, so I decided to do a 12 hr shift Saturday. I broke down at lunch abd had some anxiety after that, but I have a great support system at work, and they helpedme through it. Sunday was another 12 hr shift, and it went very well. Thanks to all who responded!
    ((HUGS)) Us crazy nurses...give us an inch and we take a mile....((HUGS))


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