This has happened to me a few times in my career. I decided each time to take a non-bedside position job. It usually did the trick, I would always end up returning to the bedside. Sometimes you just need to step back.
You are in a unique situation in the ER. In home health, I can't help but develop a relationship w some of my pt's. I have been there for them, and helped them in everyway I can. Sometimes, I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders when I see the sad situations that some people have to live in/with. And I also get tired, like this weekend, having to track down a pt who they couldn't find all week. My feeling is, look, they were feeling good enough to be out of the house all week, why are we putting them on the weekend schedule. What makes them think that the person will be home on the weekend, I'm talking those who don't have a job.
Please send me to people you know are home. I don't mind going into a drug/gang neighborhood, but damn it, it better not be for a wild goose chase!! I found myself thinking I wish I could quit my HH job totally once I start my worker's comp CM job, but I want to be sure I made the right decision, so I want to stay per diem for a bit longer.
Anyway, my point is, that you cannot form bonds in so short a time, and sure you get tired of hearing yet another female come in with "cramps." You are seeing so many uneducated and ignorant people in the ER who use it as their primary physician, naturally it's frustrating.
But, the thing about your post that is telling to me, is that you are finding it difficult to feel for close friends. You are afraid to form bonds b/c 9/11 has made you realize how tenuous relationships can be. You may actually be suffering from PTSD. I really recommend you talk with someone, a professional, about it. Maybe you can start with your employee assistance program. They usually will pay for like 6 counseling sessions. If you don't trust them, then read a bit about ptsd.
I did an inservice on PTSD after 9/11, and this web site is fantastic. See if you see yourself in the signs...