Granny Dumping - page 4

With the Memorial Holiday over it is now the official beginning of summer time vacation. Time for the family to hit the road, the skies or the boats. But what to do with Gramma? Lets take her... Read More

  1. by   StephMSeattle
    I'm going to financially support them if need be. I work in LTC right now and I can't tell you how many of these families have taken care of their relative far beyond what they are capable of. Assisted living, retirement community, home care, nursing home, etc... I'm not capable of taking care of my parents in my home. I'd rather work to keep them in housing than go through what I see some of these families going through.
  2. by   Blackcat99
    After we brought 89yo deaf grandma home from SNF we hired livein care till back on her feet as I was pregnant. Night shift aide had the audacity to have boyfriend come at 5AM and cook breakfast for him--with Grans food. Well she was deaf but alert as a fox and had great sniffer, 2 sets dirty dishes seen in kitchen. I visited next night and caught them both in LR at 5:30AM. So yes, good overnight help is hard to find.[/QUOTE]

    :chuckle That's great that your grandma had a good sniffer! I am curious. What did the night shift aide say when you confronted her? Yes. Good help is hard to find.
  3. by   Blackcat99
    Oops. Sorry NRS KarenRN. I was asking you a question and I messed up :imbar
  4. by   Blackcat99
    Quote from StephMSeattle
    I'm going to financially support them if need be. I work in LTC right now and I can't tell you how many of these families have taken care of their relative far beyond what they are capable of. Assisted living, retirement community, home care, nursing home, etc... I'm not capable of taking care of my parents in my home. I'd rather work to keep them in housing than go through what I see some of these families going through.
    Steph, You're doing the right thing. You are very wise.
  5. by   NRSKarenRN

    :chuckle That's great that your grandma had a good sniffer! I am curious. What did the night shift aide say when you confronted her? Yes. Good help is hard to find.
    "He's getting my paycheck to cash".

    Agency was upset and embarrased. Replacement aide a gem. After another month Grandmom living on her own. Stayed in her own apt till age 98 1/2. Died at age 99 1/2 after pneumonia. Still have found memories of visiting her at SNF and flying kites from her WC with my sons--her telling them about making box kites from tree branch and newspaper: "don't forget that important cloth tail".

    Carry on...
  6. by   teeituptom
    Try making a kite from scratch nowadays

    you kids just tell you to go to the store and buy one
  7. by   BabyRN2Be
    Quote from Blackcat99
    I agree that the doctor was 100% unethical. However, I don't see anything wrong with having Mom stay at an assisted living facility (respite care) if I needed to go on vacation???? Yes it would be more ideal if I could hire a home health aide for a week. I have heard it can be very difficult to find an honest and dependable person whom you can trust in your home. I have heard about home workers who come in your home and steal all the elderly person's money and valuables.
    I also agree that the OP's doctor was unethical. Goodness, what a setup for a family who is not familiar with the healthcare system. Of course, this doc would not be responsible if social services was called in on something he "recommended" in confidence. [/sarcasm]
  8. by   BabyRN2Be
    Quote from NRSKarenRN
    "He's getting my paycheck to cash".


    Carry on...
    Cashing checks at 5:30A.M.? I dunno... sounds a little suspicious to me.
  9. by   CEN35
    Quote from prmenrs
    OMG--where the heck have you been, Rick?

    pop in and out now and then, very busy is all........... :-)
  10. by   flashpoint
    Grrr...we once had a couple that had a baby 6 weeks preemie. Once mom was dismissed, we only saw mom and dad once or twice a week. No other kids or anything, they just felt that we were there to provide care, so they didn't need to be there. Once the baby was finally ready to be dismissed, we couldn't find the parents...they were in New York on vacation.

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