Difficulty with coworkers - page 3

by MiriamRn | 6,152 Views | 27 Comments

I have been an RN for just 3 years- this past year has been very difficult. For the past 2 years I have worked in the ER. I knew the staff was known for being " cut throat" but this is just terrible. I work my butt off go above... Read More


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    The reality is that there will be people that you will not like to work with and there will be people who will not like working for you. The best thing to do is to adapt, toughen up and be more resilient. If this is not possible then you need to find another job where the situation is more favorable to you.
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    Pick one person and invite them for coffee after work. Ask them what you are doing wrong then be openminded about the answer. Try to find one person to mentor you at least then they will feel bonded somewhat. Don't expect to win a popularity contest just divide and conquer
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    I thought I could change the world. It took me a hundred years to figure out I can't change the world. I can only change Bessie. And honey, that ain't easy either.

    Annie Elizabeth (Bessie) Delany, 1891-1995

    Just sayin'.
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    I feel lucky. I too am one of those socially awkward people. I've never really fit in anywhere. I've been at this job 4 months and I just don't seem to click with anyone. Everyone is mostly nice to me but it seems more of a nice like you're nice to a pt. very short, cordial one word replies.
    I'm usually running around crazy so it doesn't leave much bonding time and even when we do get a chance to talk, again, short and awkward.
    I just plug away at it. Anytime anyone offers to help I jump on it. I always ask others if I can lend a hand even when I'm super busy.

    I tend to way over analyze things and take stupid petty stuff too personal. No I don't harp on it and it doesn't make me go run into the back room and cry but it still bothers me some at times. It's stupid stuff like they order out all the time and never ask if I'm interested in ordering food. Or I'll see a bunch sitting around and chatting and I try to include myself and the chatting stops and then just kinda half smile n say mmhmmm or something.

    Nobody does anything mean or nasty to me. But it does make the long 12 hour shift even longer when you feel like a wart sticking out of someone's thumb. Lol
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    Love all this advice. It's a new way of looking at situations. My husband said lower your standards of them and you will be happier. I tried it yesterday and I was happier. I didnt smile as much and concentrated on my work. I'm always sweet to the pts and their families. I've only changed to the staff. I feel like I'm in control now.
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    Another thing.. I have a hard time gauging peoples responses. I work 12 midday shift. So it's busy from the time I come in until the time I leave. Like primetime ER. And I REALLY look forward to my replacement.

    I reallllly try hard to have all the bases covered before my relief needs report (line, labs, urine, assessment) but ya know, life happens and I can't always leave everything ready to go for them. I really 'enjoy' the crotchety responses I get from the fresh, next shift coming on. It never fails, if I give them report, and they find out they have anything to do, it comes off like they are put off and don't even want to hear what I say. Especially when I vacated 3 of my 4 rooms 10 minutes before they came on and 3 fresh faces appeared..
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    Quote from Sassy5d

    I did not punch her but I lost it. Everyone saw me salivating. The f bombs flew out of my mouth. I threw my report paper at her.
    Ironically, she was soon later fired cuz they soon realized she actually did nothing all day. Did 1 med pass a day at 2 o'clock. Lmbo.
    Love it!! :-)
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    Quote from Sassy5d

    I reallllly try hard to have all the bases covered before my relief needs report (line, labs, urine, assessment) but ya know, life happens and I can't always leave everything ready to go for them. I really 'enjoy' the crotchety responses I get from the fresh, next shift coming on. It never fails, if I give them report, and they find out they have anything to do, it comes off like they are put off and don't even want to hear what I say. Especially when I vacated 3 of my 4 rooms 10 minutes before they came on and 3 fresh faces appeared..
    THIS.

    I am never one of those nurses who would say "that's a night shift problem!", I always try to wrap it up before the end of shift. But when you clear out rooms and the new ones are loaded in right at shift change (or after), it's beyond my control to get them all dialed before the next shift starts. Don't take it personally!

    OP, how are you at helping out other nurses? You wrote that you go above and beyond for your patients, but do you ever help others out too? When I first started working, I asked for a lot of help and I think I would burn people out. But now I make the extra effort to help out other nurses (when I can), and without any other change in my behavior, I have become much more liked on my unit. I'm not doing anything huge...starting a line while someone charts, grabbing seizure pads if our tech is busy, etc. But people now perceive me as a "team player" and the work atmosphere is a positive one.


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