A Generation of Wimps? - page 3

Is is just me, or is anyone else seeing more and more patients in their late teens to early 30's that are a bunch of wusses? I mean relatively minor ailments (nausea/vomiting for 1 day, headache,... Read More

  1. by   jnette
    Quote from ebear
    jlsRN,
    Oops!!! You got me on the Lamaze thing! Tried it--couldn't do it! Thank GOD for epidurals!!!!
    ebear

    Wuss.








    (j/k..couldn't resist!)
  2. by   ebear
    HEY!!!!! I never said that I did the "natural childbirth" thing! Both my chaps were almost 10lb and my pre-pregancy wt. was 107. Sometimes there's just "no room at the Inn"! If that makes me a wuss then I guess I am...
    ebear
  3. by   Tweety
    Quote from Medic04
    I am noticing more MEN being WHIMPS. Ooooooooooo the pain...
    (But can go smoke.....) Come back in tears to the floor"Oh the pain......"

    What ever happened to Men being Men, have wussed them too these days?
    Most of the guys I see doing this are baby boomers. Not the younger generation. The younger generation of guys are a bit more stoic.

    Just my experience.
  4. by   scattycarrot
    Quote from tvccrn
    My kids can attest to the fact that you aren't going to die if you have a fever of 100.8. My kids have lived through the flu, nasty colds, and normal childhood aches and pains. The fact that I'm a nurse really bugs my kids because they can't get the note from ER saying they can stay home from school. The saying in our house goes, "If it ain't fallin' off, you can still breathe, there isn't major blood spillage,or your not dead...it will be OK."

    I kind of worry about this!! I am pregnant with my first and am worried that my kids will be walking around with broken arms because I am not easily impressed with drama queen antics. I am of the....'if your not dying or if your arm isn't hanging off, you will be ok' persausion. My neices and nephews drive me mad as they just need to fall over or stub a toe and they are screaming blue murder and you would think they were dying. Unfortantly, their moms respond with ice-packs and lots of attention, so its not surprising that they do make fuss. They know not to come running to me though as I am partcularly unsympathetic!
  5. by   santhony44
    Quote from scattycarrot
    I kind of worry about this!! I am pregnant with my first and am worried that my kids will be walking around with broken arms because I am not easily impressed with drama queen antics.
    I wouldn't worry about it. I was of the "no visible bones, no spurting blood, you're fine" school and my two have, so far, survived to 21 and almost 18.

    Funny thing is, my younger son is a bit of a hypochondriac, but when he's been actually injured, he's very calm about it. He's broken both a collarbone and an arm and, both times, I knew as soon as I looked at his face he'd broken something. Very calm face, I just saw it there somewhere (the arm was nondisplaced).

    While they've had their fair share of childhood illnesses, they've had only about 4 or 5 ER visits apiece. Grunting respirations, broken bones, lacerations, and an accidentally self-inflicted gunshot wound all pretty much qualify as emergencies in anybody's book. (The GSW wasn't serious, Barney Fife grazed the side of his foot).
  6. by   VivaLasViejas
    Oh, good..........so it's not just me! My specialty is geriatrics now, and part of the reason for that is having worked with so many whiney twenty- and thirty-somethings during my Med/Surg and OB days. They couldn't stand pain---oh, dear God, how they could NOT stand pain. I can't count the number of times I've run into the room of a post-op appy who was literally screaming his head off because of..........gas. There also have been folks like the nineteen-year-old preggo with a faceful of piercings who jerked her hand away just as I prepared to insert the IV because she "didn't like needles".........the females with recurrent abdominal pain for which no cause was ever found, who'd retch miserably and moan for two hours while waiting for their next shot of morphine, and then be on their cell phones pushing their IV poles around the smoking area.......the injured athletes who could play video games and entertain visitors for hours on end, but needed me to fetch their urinal from the bedside table.

    Then there are nurses' kids. Granted, my own had to grow up tough because I wasn't the least bit impressed with 99-degree temps or head colds, and would pack 'em right off to school. But not one is a whiner, even though three are asthmatics and the other has a knee whose cartilage is virtually nonexistent. My oldest accidentally put a knife through her hand when she was ten, and never told me about it until years after the fact; this is the same one who had two Cesareans and was up walking the halls the same night each time. My 19-year-old son lost part of a finger in the gears of an exercise bike when he was 2 and barely even cried, not even in the ER, while a doctor told a rather inebriated gentleman in the next cubicle to 'man up' because he was doing more hollering than Christopher was!

    Like many here, I tend to think 'wimpiness' is something of a generational thing, made possible only because a) Madison Avenue has sold America's parents a bill of goods---"a pill for every ill"---and b) so many young folks were raised with a sense of entitlement: their needs and wants are paramount, and they don't have to put up with the common discomforts (e.g., sprained ankles, the flu, bad skin, headaches and so on). By contrast, you have the Greatest Generation, which was made of whipcord stuff........yes, there are some 'wusses', to be sure, but the vast majority of these people are the sort who won't even take Tylenol half the time because they know that whatever is bothering them will pass, preferring instead to let Mother Nature take her course (except, of course, when it comes to their bowels, which is a whole 'nother thread.
  7. by   santhony44
    I had a very histrionic college student not long ago. You could hear her out in the hallway, sounding as if she were in labor. Including the "Just put me to sleeeeeep!!" Mom was holding her hand and fanning her face.

    She had gastroenteritis. :trout:


    Then, too, there are exceptions. I put stitches into the finger of a 14 year old girl recently. She watched the whole thing and thought it was "cool!" I could see her foot bobbing if it got a little touchy, but no tears nor complaints. I told her that if she has not given any consideration to some sort of a healthcare career, she should!!
  8. by   Altra
    I wholeheartedly agree with the overall sentiment here ...

    The worst, from my point of view, is young adult men in the ER with their mothers. Listen buddy, unless you're dying, your mommy does not need to come to the ER with you, wrap your body in blankets, and generally hover over you in such a way that it makes me wanna hurl.

    It's just wrong on so many levels.

    Man up, indeed.
  9. by   santhony44
    Quote from MLOS
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    The worst, from my point of view, is young adult men in the ER with their mothers. Listen buddy, unless you're dying, your mommy does not need to come to the ER with you, wrap your body in blankets, and generally hover over you in such a way that it makes me wanna hurl.


    Man up, indeed.
    Not long ago I had a guy come in with his mother. He was nauseated and vomiting.

    The nurse had just given a Phenergan injection and I had given very explicit home care instructions, starting with "rest the stomach at least an hour- nothing to eat or drink."

    While we were doing the discharge paperwork, the mom comes flying around the corner, eyes wide and looking worried. "Can he have some ice chips? He's thrown up again!!"

    "No ma'am, nothing by mouth for an hour!!!"

    The patient was over 30 years old. Gastroenteritis, for a few hours.
  10. by   EDNewbie
    Thanks everyone for posting all these replies! I don't know, I just had one of those days... Despite my screen name, I am no longer an "EDNewbie" - made that name up when I first started ED. I have worked at several different hospitals in two different states and the one I currently work at has the worst offenders. Maybe it has something to do with being in the 'burbs with all the pampered people. The wimpiness didn't seem so prevalent at the county hospital where I started out or the urban hospital in the ghetto that I left about 6 months ago. I just needed to vent.. But I do sometimes worry about the "younger" generation. They truly do not know how good they have it these days. Back in MY day.. oh no, now I sound like my parents!!
  11. by   rph3664
    Yeah, well, my parents took us to a pediatric dentist who did fillings and extractions without painkillers (I now realize that he probably injected me with plain water) and when we protested, we were told that pain builds character and that when they were growing up, children were always obedient to their parents and didn't question any decisions that were made for them.

    You would see handicapped kids in the waiting room - kids with Down Syndrome, in wheelchairs, that kind of thing - and I know now that he put out the word that he wanted to work on them, not out of the goodness of his heart but so he could hurt them and they couldn't tell their parents.

    When it was learned that I needed braces, they had to be done over TWICE because my parents had this dentist do them rather than send me to an orthodontist and maybe have people think my mom had a job. You see, in their minds, the only reason people put braces on their kids' teeth was so working mothers could show off how much money they had to throw around. I also got a stern lecture about how I was stealing food off the plates of my younger brother and sister, and "nobody did this when we were growing up." In grade school, I was actually prohibited from playing with children who had braces or a sibling with them.

    When my sister had the same complex problem a few years later, guess what? She got it done right the first time. :angryfire

    This dentist later lost his license for molesting patients. No big surprise.

    I have tried to get my parents to tell me why they did this, and all they will say is "We're sorry." Baloney. They're just sorry that I don't visit them much, and they know that if they ever have to go to a nursing home.....you can guess the rest.

    I honestly think some parents (okay, mothers) take their kids to the doctor just to have something to do, besides endlessly jabber on their cell phones. And don't get me started on the ones who insist on ADD meds when all the kid needs is some rules, or better yet, children who have no behavior problems at all but the parents think this will make them perfect! This makes things much harder for people who really do have ADD/ADHD.
  12. by   StacieRN
    On a related note, does it irk anyone else that everyone expects a doctor's note? My boss wanted a note if I missed three days. Excuse me, I am NOT going to a doctor for the flu, a cold or sinusitis.

    My child's school nurse sent him home and wouldn't let him back w/o a doctor's note when he had hay fever in his eyes (she insisted it was pinkeye even though I assured her otherwise) Of course I was right. one doctor co-pay later. (a school nurse who can't tell pink-eye???)

    His work place insisted on a doctor note because he had ringworm on his arm. Even though I assured them that the risk of transmission was very low and even non-existent when he had it covered and it was already drying.

    I've even had to tell physicians that I didn't want any antibiotics for my child because the symptoms indicated a virus instead of bacterial infection. I guess he was used to moms who insisted on a RX.

    They're training people to be wimps!!!

    What's up with everyone's common sense???
    Last edit by StacieRN on Jan 2, '08
  13. by   farmerRN
    Common sense is dead...died somewhere in the 1970s my grandma says.

    And I will have to say it is not only us gen-x's and younger are whips...but I will throw the baby boomers in there too. The only difference they tend not to have the oscar worthy performances than the younger crowd.

    Alot of the whimpy-ness comes from the fact people don't want to be sick anymore. Everyone thinks they need antibiotics or there is some pill out there to take away everything. It does not help when the media helps create hysterias that are not warranted or the inaccuracy of medical shows. Remember the peanut butter scare earlier this year!!!!

    And the reason why there is so much ADD...because parents are no longer parents...they want to be the kids "friend". Growing up my brother, sister, and I knew when are parents were p***ed off when we did something wrong. And yes...we were even spanked!!

    Today...if a parent does try to act like a parent...they get a visit from the police or social services. Too many "experts" out there giving bad advice.

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