Mercy - I completely understand the woman in her 40's viewpoint . . . . I was preggers with my son at 42. The doc and genetic counselor were very firm about testing - and I unfortunately did the whole shebang.
After the blood tests, I got a call at work saying the test came back positive for Down's. However, the only positive marker was MY AGE. Nothing in the blood at all. Which I didn't realize until later . . .
I had a diagnostic sono - no signs of Down's. I had amnio. No Down's.
Looking back I wish I had not done any of it. My husband and I wouldn't have aborted anyway.
My life is colored by the presence of many adults with this condition. I've written about them before. They live at the Mountain Jewels Ranch nearby and come to our church. One in particular, Rusty, sits by me regularly and puts his head on my shoulder or stands with me singing loudly and out of tune.
My life would be less if they were not in my life.