Quote from jamangel
Can i just say this? I think that it's ridiculous to say that one cannot fraternize with excons because 1) not everyone is guilty 2) not everyone is unable to cahnge and 3) if that excon were a close relative like a father, sibling etc. do they really believe that you won't fraternize? No such rules exists here and it's the first I've ever heard of that. Unless you met them while incarcerated.
Now, if your sisterlaw is hell bent on dealing with him that's on her and if you had a great relationship before why let it get in the way. Rejecting her is not going to hurt her more than yourself. The family appears to support her without judgement and you should to. If you don't want to deal with him, then don't and find a tactful way to explain this to him and to her. But please keep the peace it's not worth it. It's her life.
I have a friend doing the same thing but she is a nurse and met him in jail. I don't like it but it's her life and I'm not interested in ending the friendship. She knows how I feel and it need not be beaten into her head.
Just my opinion. By the way, my husband is a ex-con (didn't meet him while working mind you) but he did do something very stupid in his twenties and is a good person and has not returned since (he's 42 now and has been locked once since we've been together for coming to my defense and spent a couple days in and then was cleared). I know that you're saying the guy mentioned is not a good guy but you have to respectfully let sis inlaw live her life.
Was your husband in prison or was he in jail? I think there is a huge difference between the two. I have several friends who have spent time in the pokey for minor, stupid stuff, but prison? I wouldn't go near someone.
He isn't engaging in lawful behavior if he is abusing alcohol, driving on a suspended license, and causing disturbances to where 911 has to be called: That doesn't sound like someone who was falsely accused, and I don't know of many people that sell green peppers that walk around with large amounts of cash on hand. Something doesn't just smell, it reeks.
Stick to your convictions. Your first instinct is dead on.