Family member issue......

That's just wrong. I don't understand why some nurses don't stand up for the residents. Why, they let family members make decisions that are not in the best interest of the resident. I would have put her in the outfit for the next day. What are they going to do? Write you up for dressing the resident.

It is a skill you learn - not to take things personal. The problem is not about you. The daughter could make a Accident - clothing change bag as well, but of coarse in reflection having know such famility members there is the strong possibility that such a suggestion would explode in a mine field. Sometimes it is best just to let family members figure out their own problems rather than make a suggestion to them that could fuel thier fire. Part of the occupational hazard. Just keep things simple.

Try not to let it get to you. Some of the things my LTC let the family members get away with is astonishing. You can't take it home with you. Sometimes the "Family Requests" are a bit far fetched. Unfortunately, sometimes they are not far fetched enough that something will be done. Many times, the demands are enough to drive everyone else that has to deal with them crazy! I know. It sucks when it affects the resident in a negative way. It may be a bit of OCD and ignorance on her daughters part. Since the daugther isn't there with her mom all day, she has no clue what kind of accidents may occur, nor does she know how her mom feels when she's laying around in a gown all day while her peers are wearing clothes. There's nothing like a hospital gown to remind you where you are!

It's sad to hear your Nurses aren't very proactive with things like this. There should be some kind of balance. I would suggest that someone mention to the daugther that it would be a good idea to bring extra clothes in case she should have an accident. Someone should let her know how her mom feels when things like this happen. Maybe she could bring in extra house dresses or gowns. It's worth a shot. Where I work, it wasn't uncommon for the CNA's to nicely mention these things to the family members. However, the nurse were aware and prepared to back you up if your request goes ignored. Is there a unit manager you could discuss this with? I would give it a shot.

I agree, i would just ask the daughter to bring in an extra couple of outfits, or just some sweats in case it happens again.I supose you could of put that new outfit on, then washed it later on and she could of worn it again the next day. just my thoughts.

I agree the daughter should be asked about bringing in extra outfits in case of an accident. I know family members can drive staff crazy but I always tried to remember at least they're here and doing something for their family member. I would take an over involved one to the dozens that get left without family attention any day.

I think one of the charge nurses should ask the family to bring in two sets of "emergency changes" for their mom. Easiest way to deal with this. Surprised nobody has done this already.

Well the situation was solved because she was put in a gown and kept clean emergency / extra pair of clothes should be set aside. And just for further reference be extra vigilant with her toileting so a accident doesn't happen again.

I agree with you, in regards to toileting. I agree that she should be toileted as often as possible. However, working in an LTC, I understand that sometimes you can't get to a resident quick enough-especially when you have many others. Every two hours isn't often enough for some folks. I had a resident, where if you didn't catch her every hour on the nose, there was a big mess to clean. Lets face it, sometimes you can't get back to that room every hour. I think the issue here is not the fact that the problem wasn't solved. It's a dignity and respect issue. Why is this resident wearing hospital gowns when she has clothes? Clearly is affects her because she is upset. For this reason alone, I feel someone should make the daughter aware of how mom is feeling. I would want to know if it were my family.