Some mean Nurses.......

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    hi everyone! i don't get to come to the site as often as i would like because of work and school, but since i have a tiny break from both right now i have some questions for you all, and i love reading about people who are in the same situations i am and learning too.
    i started my cna (pca) job at a hospital on the med./peds. floor about two months ago. i love it! i am learning so much and my experiences have reinforced my desire to become a nurse. i only have one problem.
    some of the nurses on my floor are just plain mean. i notice that it isn't that they are mean toward everyone, just the aides. now, i am older, (37) and a lot of the girls who are r.n.'s are younger than me, which may be part of the attitude, but the older ones are just as bad. it stinks because their harshness is uncalled for. is this just some initiation deal? am i being tested?:spin:
    i know everyone is different, but i was hoping for a kind of "sisterhood" at this job, where i could make new friends and find a mentor or two. anyone else find a similar situation happening to them?
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    Sometimes, it takes a bit of time for people to get used to new staff members on the floor. And, at times, it may be true (as well as unfortunate), that nurses may target out aides. Let me tell you, this continues with nurses as well. LPNs feel picked on by RNs, the RNs argue who is the best sort of nurse, ASN or BSN, nursing supervisors and nurse managers are at each other's throats, etc. It is an issue of hieracrchy, a very petty issue.

    You may still find your niche, or sisterhood. Work with dignity, do your assignments well, report what is necessary to the nurses. You never know who is watching you, and (at least from my experience when I was a CNA), these same people may recommend you if there is a nursing career program available. And, if you believe that they are blantantly disrespecting you, you have the right to advocate for yourself in a professional manner. No one deserves to be disrespected because of what they do for a living.
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    Just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone on this one. When I worked at a PCT, almost all the nurses were so hateful and rude, like I wasn't good enough or something. It made me mad, but I just ignored it, I mean who are they to judge me?

    Like the previos post said, just do your job well and they will come around, if not, screw em...

    Good Luck
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    Hi, there. I'm an LVN at a nursing home, and my following comments might be construed as controversial.

    Nursing, moreso than other careers out there, tends to attract its fair share of women with low self esteems. The nurses with self esteem issues are the ones who are most likely to be hateful, mean, and picky toward the aides, because a person with chronic low-self worth temporarily feels better when she's treated someone badly. She feels a sense of control and purpose, even if it is just for than one moment of rudeness.

    Before anyone flames me, let me say that most nurses are not mean or have low self esteems.
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    I worked Med/Surg for years. There has always been a separateness when it comes to nurses and techs. I think nurses keep a strictly professional relationship in order to keep respect which in return keeps the techs on task. It has always been that if the nurses and techs got too clummy then one or the other ends up taking advantage of it. While in the break room nurses and techs mesh without a problem. On the floor it's back to business. Nurses do appreciate the techs. Most of us not would not change jobs with them for double the pay. I wouldn't.
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    As a man that joined this "sisterhood," I have to say that I have experienced rude/mean people in many if not all of the jobs that I have worked in my life.

    I am now a nurse, however, as a cna, I've seen my fair share of cna's "bad-mouthing" nurses while in the breakroom and the nurse out taking care of patients.

    My point is there will always be some bad/negative/lazy/etc.. people in ANY job!! Professional football players have people that mistreat staff, ignore the rookie, show up late or even skip practice, etc.

    I hope that you keep your dream to become a nurse, but not to be a part of a sisterhood, but rather, to be a part of a profession that dedicates itself to being highly educated and PATIENT focused.

    Sincerely,
    Jay "Proud member of the sisterhood"
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    Thanks for your comments, Jay.

    When I was a CNA, only other CNAs were mean to me- never nurses. I worked my butt off, and the nurses knew it and appreciated it. Everyone's experiences are different.
    Last edit by Valerie Salva on Jan 4, '08 : Reason: typo
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    Quote from TheCommuter
    Hi, there. I'm an LVN at a nursing home, and my following comments might be construed as controversial.

    Nursing, moreso than other careers out there, tends to attract its fair share of women with low self esteems. The nurses with self esteem issues are the ones who are most likely to be hateful, mean, and picky toward the aides, because a person with chronic low-self worth temporarily feels better when she's treated someone badly. She feels a sense of control and purpose, even if it is just for than one moment of rudeness.

    Before anyone flames me, let me say that most nurses are not mean or have low self esteems.
    i agree with you. anyone who has to belittle someone else, regardless of the job title, likely has self worth issues....
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    wow! you have all been great! i feel much better, at least i am not the only one who has felt this way!! i understand the heirarchy thing, and honestly i have overheard the r.n.'s talking about the supervisors, aides bashing other aides and so on...usual work junk talk i see.
    thank you for all of the advice too! i do work hard, i'm older and understand that this pca/cna job is not only a great opportunity for me to gain some experience, but it should give me a slight advantage once i start the bsn program as well. at least i believe that would be the case.
    also, jb2u, i am sorry i wrote "sisterhood," silly me!!!
    thanks for having fun with my blurb though!!!
    thank you all again!
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    Quote from TheCommuter
    Nursing, moreso than other careers out there, tends to attract its fair share of women with low self esteems. The nurses with self esteem issues are the ones who are most likely to be hateful, mean, and picky toward the aides, because a person with chronic low-self worth temporarily feels better when she's treated someone badly. She feels a sense of control and purpose, even if it is just for than one moment of rudeness.
    I totally agree that it's often those with low self-esteem that pick on others. I don't know if nursing attracts these types of people any more than other careers. The problem of lateral violence in healthcare is complex. The best thing we can do as the next generation is stop the cycle. We need to be better leaders, better colleagues.

    ~Mel'
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