Thru program w/ children - page 2
I have 4 children ages 16, 7, 2 and 6mo (!) and was trying to figure out which 2 years of their life would be the best time to attend CRNA school. (I know it would have been best BEFORE I had them,... Read More
Dec 5, '02I'm afraid I'd do my son more harm than good if I was home 24/7.... I'd kill him, go insane, or he'd kill me before the week was out!!! :chuckle
Good luck! Go for it!! ...... I find that it was easier to study when my son was really young, then it got hard as he was a toddler, but has become easier now that he's in kindergarten.Last edit by kittyw on Dec 5, '02
Dec 5, '02Rhon1991
Villanova offers what they call a nontraditional student crna program whereby you take eighteen of the core credits prior to the start of clinicals. Once you begin clinicals you still have to go full time but your load is lightened.
Dec 5, '02My wife and I try to work different hours so that someone is always home. But, while working these hours we rarely have time for each other. Who know the right answer? I think if women want to work and pursue higher education power to them. I also think it is more important to spend quality time with children rather than just quantity. Make the time with your kids count. Talk to them take interest in what they are doing when you are home. I think kids are damn resilient and will not suffer ill effect if their parents pursue careers.
One question I have is, what makes this opinion that one parent should be a homemaker valid? Is there research in this area? If so please direct me toward it. I would love to educate myself in this area if I am rearing my children in an inappropriate fashion.
Dec 6, '02Here's the only study I could find and it only addresses this issue tangentially. The study does appear to be rather comprehensive. If you have time, happy reading.
Dec 6, '02Rhon
There are upsides and downsides to every decision we make in life. I guess that's why its called life. There are as many opinions out there as there are people. Bottom line? Do what feels right for you and your family.
For me, the counter point to what has been said by Quiigley and Espresso Girl is where will you and your family be in two or three years if you don't go to CRNA school? Yes, there will be some time lost with your children. But, I have learned that kids are amazingly resiliant. If you explain to them what you are doing, you'll be suprised at how much they will understand, and try to help you out. Especially after you've started and they see that you are still trying to set time aside for them. I've known women who were married with kids who went through the program, I know at least one who had a child while in the program, and I know a number of single mom's who went through the program. All had a number of personal goals that were essentially the same: To provide the best possible future for my kids, and for myself. If your husband is supportive, then school can be fit into your life. And, from the perspective of one who has been there, it is worth it. You will have a bit more schedule juggling to do than single or childless students, to be sure. But you will have your own built in cheering section, too.
There is also something to be said for the example you will set for your kids. They will see that mom wants something, set a goal, and worked her tail off to get there. My two older kids were around 8 or 9 when I started my BSN program, and in their mid teens when I started a CRNA program. They learned from dad that college was NOT party time, and to do well required a pretty firm work ethic. There is value in that lesson.
Bottom line, there will always be those who will tell you that you must sacrifice, or at least postpone, your future once you have children. I'm telling you that it ain't necessarily so.
Dec 6, '02Thanks for all of your responses. I got a variety of them and thats exactly why I posted to this board, to get just that. I guess those who have done it with children just found their own thing that worked for them, help by spouses, family or friends or just simply found a way. Thanks again. I am still open to any specific thing that worked.
Dec 7, '02There are part-time programs out there. The one at University of Detroit adds another year to the 27 months. However the load is reduced and time is available to work or spend with kids. I would quess that 2/3rds of our class has children of a variety of ages. Go for it, be willing to accept being pulled in different directions.
Dec 13, '02As a new member, I feel like I just regressed back to the Dark Ages. One question for those who feel mom's job is to stay at home raising the children. If mom is staying at home fulfilling those duties, it would bring me to the conclusion that dad is financially supporting the household. Here's that one question. What if something happens to dad? Who makes that house payment, the utility payments, the payment for the minivan or SUV? I have always been an independent woman and now with a 3 month old baby - I am for the first time relying on my husband to support me while I go to school. I am going to be a CRNA because I want to know that I could support myself handsomely and be rewarded with being able to give my child/children the things that I never had. Plus setting a fine example is like icing on the cake.
Don't get me wrong. I'm a survivor, sure I could find ways to manage if something happened. But I am taking this opportunity to pursue a goal and let the rewards speak for themself when I'm finished. I would have to bake ALOT of brownies to beat that.
Dec 13, '02I have read this thread and have something to say....but, before I do so...let me give my background in a nutshell:
Planned on CRNA school in 1996 when I was married with no children. In the process of applying, I became pregnant. I took a(personal) choice of being a stay home mother, working on the weekends. These weekends that I worked, my husband watched our child. I stayed with my child for the first 3 years of her life, and then continued my quest for CRNA school.
I am presently in a program, with a child that is 4.5 years. It is difficult, but with good support (my husband) it is doable without compromising my child's growth and happiness. I believe it is the quality of time, not the quantity, that counts.
I have seen many different situations of families in this program, and it is working for all of them. (These include students with children from 8 months to 18.) But, I stress that each one of us, in the program, have difficult times at present and in the future. I know that the majority of students would put this program on hold, if they believed it was effecting their families in a negative way.
I have learned not to cast judgement on others in the program, but spend my energy on focusing what I am doing wrong (and how to change)....and foster on the things that are working for my child. It is difficult to be a good parent when you, yourself, are not happy with what you are and what you have not accomplished in life. We know that fostering our growth can only enhance the positive effects on our children. The list of positives is endless.
I look at all your responses with respect and will accept your choices.....but, we must remember that your choices are not ours...and ours are not yours.
Good luck to all of you!!!
Dec 13, '02I guess it is better to collect a welfare check and be home all day for the kids rather than go out to provide for them if you are a single parent! Even in the dark ages the poor worked as servants etc. to provide for their kids!Last edit by London88 on Dec 13, '02