For Potential CRNA's Who Are Married or Have Significant Others - page 2

I had not mentioned this anywhere else, and kind of thought it was important enough to merit it's own thread. If you are considering applying to CRNA schools, and you are married or otherwise... Read More

  1. by   NOPAIN
    London88:
    Do you mind letting me know which school are attending? I
    Thank you.
  2. by   zrmorgan
    thanks everyone who has posted to this thread...it is difficult to have that sit down talk even with the television off , and try to explain to my wife the challanges that lie ahead...especially from a newbie like me who is not yet speaking from experience...it is good to have the been there done that crowd attest to my point.
  3. by   CRNAinTHEfuture
    I've only just begun the ADN program, so grad school (and CRNA license) seem to be far in the future. Having had a couple of years off with the births of my 2 children, I'm ready to give this my all. I've been researching for about a year now and nurse anesthesia is my final goal. During this research (in part, coming from this forum) it seem that the time I spend learning anesthesia will place big demands on myself, my husband and children. I've already talked to my husband about the time I'll need to put into school and the loss of income while I'm in anesthesia school. This is an issue we'll have to revisit before I begin, I'm sure.

    What I'd like to know is what happens after graduation? What options does a CRNA have that will accomodate the desire to be close to your family? Does it "get better" after graduation?

    Thanks for your help!!!!
  4. by   traumaRUs
    Kevin - thanks for the positive post. Although I'm not interested in a CRNA - I appreciate that you are willing to extend yourself to reassure people. Thanks...btw I always find your posts very interesting.
  5. by   TennRN2004
    I know for CRNA school in my area... you are told before the interview that the CRNA route is a demanding discipline financially, emotionally, academically, and personally. If you do not feel you are up to the challenge and can handle the work, then their attitude is don't bother applying. While this may sound cold, I think it is good because when you get into the courses, there is no room for moaning about bills, family, etc. You knew it would be difficult. I think the key is to make sure your partner knows this difficulty as well. As for me, I too have been warning my husband while I was finishing my BSN that what is coming next will be even worse. We are already looking to the future and planning for me going back. But what I have emphasized to him is that he will benefit as well eventually when I finish. Communication is the most important thing!

    As far as the stress of CRNA school, just thinking about it now stresses me out! A CRNA has the power and life of another person in his/her hands. It is a huge responsibility and we should be well prepared. I too agree though that a part time CRNA program would benefit those who need to work while in school and also give extra time for all the needed knowledge to sink in.
  6. by   Athlein1
    If you do not feel you are up to the challenge and can handle the work, then their attitude is don't bother applying. While this may sound cold, I think it is good because when you get into the courses, there is no room for moaning about bills, family, etc. You knew it would be difficult.
    Yikes. Beware of a school that send out this sort of vibe. There are far too many schools that want to see their students do well to put up with this attitude.

    And, no, you have no idea how difficult it is when you are an applicant. What you imagine is so different from the experience. There are days when it is just plain miserable, and there is nothing you can do about it.
  7. by   duckboy20
    What I liked was on our first day of orientation in the program they pulled all the spouses/loved ones to another room and had prior students talk to them about the stress it has on relationships. Lucky for me, the stress was not too great because of our solid relationship, but I have seen many people in my program with the stresses of it. Especially ones who's wives, or husbands, are a few states away while they are in the program. Sadly enough i know many people who have cheated on their spouses while in school and one right now just filed for divorce. Just keep your relationship strong, make sure you spend time with your family. As our director said, Family is most important, then school. You are no one without your loved ones!!
  8. by   athomas91
    and sometimes...even when they are well advised up front - they don't handle it so well....
  9. by   Athlein1
    and sometimes...even when they are well advised up front - they don't handle it so well....
    Amen to that. Because you think you give them the information they need to be mentally prepared, but when you really don't have a true understanding of what life will be like in anesthesia school for yourself, how can you adequately prep them?!
  10. by   are-in
    OK Now I am more worried than I was before. In part because I just rec'd an offer to interview at one of my top choices, USC. My (new) wife is well prepared (as much as possible) for the upcoming changes and stressors. If I am accepted, I will be living about an hour and a half away and plan to come home maybe 1 day on the weekends. Does anyone else have experience managing a marriage from 100 miles away while in a program? Side note, my wife is very supportive and has always known that this was my goal.

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