- 0Aug 1, '05 by CFwomanI've noticed if one is in the minority opinion on a subject, things get very mean. Subjectivity is tossed out the window. There are things in my Nursing career that I have witnessed, heard and experienced and I would love to share the stories and my viewpoints, but this board tends to steer towards a more conservative slope. I watch and censor what I say all of the time. I find so sad. God forbid I might be truthful then be banned!
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- 0Aug 1, '05 by Jessy_RNQuote from cfwomani think you need not worry about expressing any of your opinions. in just about every thread i have read or participated there are usually 2 extreme sides and that is great to see all the view points especially when one learns so much.i've noticed if one is in the minority opinion on a subject, things get very mean. subjectivity is tossed out the window. there are things in my nursing career that i have witnessed, heard and experienced and i would love to share the stories and my viewpoints, but this board tends to steer towards a more conservative slope. i watch and censor what i say all of the time. i find so sad. god forbid i might be truthful then be banned!
just make sure you keep it friendly and respectful at all times and you should be more than fine. you do run the risk of someone taking things differently that how you meant it to be, but then again this is the internet and it does happen depending on how some people read the posts and interpret them. you might get flammed at times by some or thumbs up from others. if someone disagrees with you then it is okay (they are entitles to), so go ahead and express yourself. if you don't violate the tos then you should be okay. good luck to you.
- 0Aug 1, '05 by sirI AdminQuote from CFwomanIt is a shame that you feel you must watch what you say on the BB. As Jessica stated, just stay polite, be respectful of the other members and keep within the TOS guidelines. Moderators will step in when appropriate and tone down a heated remark to attempt to diffuse a situation that is getting out of hand. Some posters try to ilicit bad responses and it takes away from the original posters meaning. I have seen that numerous times. The OP will start a thread, someone responds and it gets off the subject totally. Then inflammatory remarks are mad and a moderator steps in just to gently remind everyone to stay on track. If the situation does not improve, then the mod has no choice but to stop the thread to allow everyone to cool down.I've noticed if one is in the minority opinion on a subject, things get very mean. Subjectivity is tossed out the window. There are things in my Nursing career that I have witnessed, heard and experienced and I would love to share the stories and my viewpoints, but this board tends to steer towards a more conservative slope. I watch and censor what I say all of the time. I find so sad. God forbid I might be truthful then be banned!
Please do not think you must hold back with your opinions, join in and state your position. And like Jessica stated, be prepared to get "flammed" sometimes. I have.
- 0Aug 1, '05 by prmenrsAlllnurses intends to be a flame-free zone. If you feel you have been flamed, or have any other problem w/a thread, use the report button. It's located in the lower left corner of the box, a red triangle w/an exclamation point in it.
With as many posts on the board as happens right now, the moderators cannot review each and every one.
Also, review the terms of service. If you post something that violates the TOS, you could indeed be hearing from the staff. Save us both some time!
All that being said, welcome to allnurses. Enjoy yourself!
- 0Aug 1, '05 by TweetyYou should always feel free to express yourself. As long as you do it truthfully and respectfully, who cares if you are in the minority.
Honest opinions within the TOS will not get you banned. Trust me on this, I've got nearly 17,000 posts and not all of them have been fluff.
There've been many a time I've been in the minority. I expect to be disagreed with, flamed and argued with, but I don't take any of that as people being mean.
Not that there isn't meanness, but if you keep it in perspective, looking at the thousands and thousands of posts here, it's a mere drop in the bucket. (The other testimonials of support and information can attest to that).
The mods try to keep things from getting mean. If you think it's "mean" now (and you're entitled to that opinion, but I don't find things mean....I find them opinionated and hotly contested but not mean, but that's only a matter of opinion) you should have been around a couple of years ago.
I applaud you for taking the time to censor yourself. Don't feel as if that's a bad thing. We all should heed that advice. But please don't ever feel you have to silence yourself. I know we don't always like walking on eggshells, but I think it's necessary to avoid extreme flames. Sometimes it's maddening the way mods close down threads, but they have their reasons.
- 0Aug 30, '05 by mattsmom81I must agree with the OP so far as things getting nasty on certain subjects here if one disagrees with certain people. I don't understand why this is tolerated, other than it seems to be a clique-ishness that seems to develop with some members given more leeway than others.
I have taken a break for this board for this very reason and now that I'm back, I feel this needs to be addressed so I likely will be reporting rude posts from those who seem to be repeat offenders that are allowed to be rude IMHO.
Everyone here should do the same. If we are to be fair. ALL here must be held to the same standard IMO.
- 0Aug 30, '05 by SmilingBluEyeswe do rely on the membership to report rude, attacking, flaming posts or things that fall out of our terms of service. you are our eyes and ears, so please feel free to contact us through the reporting system (the red triangle on the post you wish to report).
for your reference, here i linked the terms of service (tos) below. i recommend anyone wanting to ensure the board is run fairly review them when considering reporting posts you feel are wrongful, unless blatantly a violation. obviously rude, flaming posts should be reported as soon as possible.
remember: disagreement for its own sake is not the same thing as "flaming". as long as others refrain from attacking you directly, try to take their words in the spirit intended-----in other words, debate issues, not each other.
thank you for expressing yourselves so openly.
believe me, brian and the administrators' visions are of an interactive, friendly board where discourse and debate are encouraged and appreciated.
the standards do apply to everyone. again, refer to tos if you have doubts or questions.
http://allnurses.com/forums/showthread.php?t=31788Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Aug 30, '05
- 0Sep 12, '05 by canoeheadAdministrators view the reported posts as well as mods, so they are aware of every report, but choose to let mods handle the issue unless asked, or if they have some guidance to give us.
You are free to contact whoever you want, of course. Administrators do give feedback to mods, even when they are not specifically notified.
- 0Sep 12, '05 by TweetyQuote from mattsmom81I encourage all posters on Allnurses to please report rude posts...go above the mod if needed, to the administrators. Some of the 'old' members here seem to get away with repeated rudeness here for some reason....don't let them.
I might be one of those "old" persons because I'm not very sensitive (had that whipped out of me as a child, ) and blunt sometimes.
There's a problem when someone interprets something as mean and rude and other people don't. Who do you go with? I've had a couple of pm's in my time here where people have called me rude and mean and I've been flabbergasted........"really? How could you read my post and think that, aren't you being just a tad bit oversensitive?"
What I'm saying is what's interpreted as meanness and rudeness by one person isn't by another.
I agree, obvious meanness and rudeness should be reported and hopefully dealt with. I also think sometimes it can be worked out in PM, if it's a little grey.
Some people are just blunt, brazen, rough around the edges and borderline rude, that's how I see them. Others think they are mean and rude and need to be banned.
I agree with you, people should be encouraged to report rude posts.